I realized something yesterday that I think a lot of 25 year olds are also realizing. As we grew up we were constantly put into groups. Whether it was a beginning dance class or a t-ball team, we were given a group of people like ourselves to become friends with. As we grew up that group of people may have changed slightly as our interests changed but probably not by much. When we got to college we were put on a dorm floor, possibly even in a learning community of people with the same major, and most likely became friends with them. Another group put there to make it easy for us to make friends and feel comfortable.

Then we left college and moved into the real world and away from most of our friends. Depending on your job, you may have still found another group of people that you could become friends with. But what if you work in a small business with people who aren’t your age? Or you just don’t like the people that work with you? How are you supposed to make friends then?

What I realized last night is that I just don’t know how to make friends without the help of a pre-set group. As someone who always considered themselves to be a very social person, that is the weirdest thing to admit. So how do I do it? How do I find a group of people who, like me, want to sit at home on a Friday night with a good meal and a glass of wine and talk? Or maybe a group to go hiking with? How am I supposed to make friends?

Here’s my plan. Since there isn’t exactly a book club at my office, I’m going to go out and find one. I’m also going to go find a yoga or exercise class, possibly an art class, maybe even a hiking club, and I’m going to make myself be the one to say “Hi.” I’m also going to say “yes” a lot. It’s pretty easy for me to get wrapped up in my cozy blanket of homebodyness but if I do that, I also get lonely and lazy and grumpy after a bit so by saying “yes,” even to things I might not want to do right then, I’ll fight those feelings. Hopefully I’ll manage to get out of my shell a little bit, have a couple of adventures, and make some new friends.

Saying yes is also going to extend to you guys, if there are any of you. If you have any suggestions of places I should go, or things I should try, let me know! I’ll do my best to say yes, and I’ll be keeping track of all of my adventures right here on my blog so you’ll be able to enjoy my wins, losses, and in-betweens. If you’re feeling the same way, I’m also inviting you to join me in this endeavor. Let me know by tweeting me at @KNdoubleU with the hashtag #YesTo25 and I’ll follow along with you as well. Who knows, maybe we’ll create our own little friend finding support group and end up friends as well.